Healing your Body & Soul
This is my own personal advice from my experiences over the past 9 years. I’m not medically qualified but professionals have told me to continue with what I’m doing to help with my overall health. Always seek professional advice when making any changes to your diet or lifestyle.
The single most important thing when dealing with alcoholism is to seek professional help. If you’re alcohol dependent and suddenly stop drinking you can suffer from fatal fits. I was surprised when my doctor told me to reduce my drinking and not to stop all at once. There were a few days I suffered terrible shakes and couldn’t function until I’d had a drink. To someone who’s not been in that position it will sound odd but a drink would make me feel normal. Without it I literally couldn’t face the day ahead, physically or mentally.
Every day for years after drinking excessively the night before I would swear to myself (and believe it) that I’d not drink again. I went to an AA meeting when I was around 24 as I knew my drinking had got out of hand (a bottle of wine 5 nights a week). I also had hypnotherapy twice, read books about alcohol, did meditations and several acupuncture sessions. Although I believe all of these things had an positive impact it wasn’t until I finally admitted I had a problem and could NEVER drink again that I could start getting better. The biggest lies we tell are the ones we tell ourselves. For over ten years I told myself I didn’t have a problem and I’d be okay in the end.
I’m often asked how I stopped drinking, thinking I have some magical advise, unfortunately I don’t. I didn’t stop drinking until it was impossible due to vomiting blood. If I hadn’t vomited blood I would have carried on. But, when I had time to reflect in hospital I knew taking control of my life was the starting point.
I hope my advice can help stop you getting anywhere near to the point I got too.
The biggest lies we tell are the ones we tell ourselves
Life can be overwhelming, don’t worry about tomorrow or things that might not happen. Live your life each day at a time and focus on now.
2014 75 kPa – vegetarian
2015 75 kPa – vegetarian
2018 39 kPa – vegan
2019 30 kPa – vegan
Moving Forward & Don't Look Back
I’m very lucky as I don’t attend meetings or support groups. I did however attend a rehab centre for two weeks after I came out of hospital and had counselling for over a year once a week. There is alcohol in the house (for guests) and there’s no temptation or risk of me touching it. To begin with my family removed all the alcohol from my home. But, everyone is different. A support group might work for you and if you are tempted by alcohol do not have it in your home and avoid situations where you think you might drink. It took me a few months until I reprogrammed my brain to hate something I once found pleasure in.
I now spend my time focusing on things I enjoy like cooking, photography, blogging, spending time with family and caring for my pets. Learn to love yourself and use your time to do things that you find rewarding.
Although I still have chronic cirrhosis and have to have check ups a few times a year by keeping my body and mind healthy impoves the quality of my life and the chances of long term survival.
7 years ago I was at rock bottom, certain I couldn’t get better and my life was over. Fast forward to today I’ve not only proved medical professionals wrong but also myself. Never give up hope!
I wish you the very best of luck with your journey – Aaron Calder
29th January 2020